Main Types of Dildos
Realistic Dildos
Shaped to resemble anatomy, often with veining and a defined head. A familiar, natural-feeling option for many first-time buyers.
Non-Realistic / Modern
Sleek, abstract, or curved designs focused on a specific sensation rather than lifelike appearance.
Glass & Steel Dildos
Firm, non-porous, and body-safe. Can be warmed or cooled for temperature play and offer a rigid feel.
Textured & Ridged
Ribs, bumps, or curves add extra sensation on insertion and withdrawal — a good option once you're comfortable with the basics.
What to Consider Before Buying
- Material: Choose a body-safe, non-porous material like medical-grade silicone, glass, or stainless steel. See our Material & Body Safety Guide for a full breakdown.
- Firmness: Silicone can range from soft and flexible to firm; glass and steel are rigid. Softer materials are often more forgiving for beginners.
- Size: Focus on insertable length and diameter rather than total length. Our Sizing & Fit Guide explains exactly how to read these measurements.
- Base shape: A flared or suction-cup base adds stability and, for anal use, is a must for safety.
- Harness compatibility: If you plan to use it with a strap-on harness, look for a flat or O-ring-compatible base.
Choosing by Experience Level
| Experience Level | Good Starting Point |
|---|---|
| First-time buyer | Slim to moderate width, tapered tip, smooth (non-textured) silicone. |
| Some experience | Moderate width with gentle curves or light texture for added sensation. |
| Experienced | Larger sizing, pronounced texture, or firmer materials like glass or steel. |
Suction Cup vs. Harness Use
Many dildos include a flat, suction-cup base that can stick to smooth, non-porous surfaces for hands-free use, and also fits most standard strap-on harnesses. If hands-free or partner play is a priority, check the product description for "suction cup base" or "harness compatible" before buying.
Our Recommendation for First-Timers
A slim-to-moderate, smooth silicone dildo with a flared base is typically the easiest starting point — it's comfortable, versatile, and easy to clean while you figure out what shapes and sensations you enjoy most.
Before You Buy
Check proper cleaning and care steps, and pick a compatible lubricant using our Lube Compatibility Guide so your new dildo stays in great condition.